I have a few minutes this morning and I thought I would share a bit of my life again. As many of you know, I was for many years searching for my birth father. It was a long journey and finally a few years ago I found the truth. It feels odd as this week in particular I am reminded of the loss of my son in law two years ago in a motorcycle accident just the day after his birthday and days before his wedding anniversary to my daughter Rachael. Yeah, I got a lot that has happened in the time since I last posted and maybe I can child by child bring it up to date in the coming weeks as I do want to start making it a regular thing again. Who is still reading my posts after all this time, I don't know but today I will touch on two persons, my mother and my son. I joined a forum that documents graves and creates memorial pages for them so family can visit anywhere on earth. For years it has hurt that I couldn't even allow his friends to mourn him by there being no place they could go to and pay respects. I know he is not the first person to die in another country away from all who knew him, there is an American Cemetery not a few miles from where he is buried and who knows I hope to visit it and document the markers there as there are no photos of the markers. But today is for Suhayb. Sadly, I still don't have a headstone for him, his father promised when he came, we would put one up, but things were rushed, and he left again without completing the promise. I will do what I can to make it happen soon as I have the funds to get a stone.
But the site is called Find A Grave or FAG online abbreviated. I found so many relatives on this site and its nice as often you can find a biography and photos of the person as well as family they had, and I love being able to add lost family to these sites too. But until recently i had no way to make a memorial page for Suhayb as the cemetery was not listed and I wasn't sure how to go about getting it listed and documented online. It is one of the oldest in the city and sadly it's in a state of disrepair and its dismal place to go to except in spring when things are so green. It's a place to bury the dead and forget them to me. Men often go on the Friday after prayers to pay respect but often only to a newly buried person so after a while you are forgotten there.
Here is the page for him and you can visit him there and pay a respect by adding a flower by joining in you can do that or just let me know here that you stopped by. Suhayb Tahir “Sufa The Legend” Faris (1989-2013) - Find a Grave Memorial I added his nickname as that was so much a part of who he was.
The second was my mother and I had also now found my birthfather but sadly too late to have known him even a day. But my mother is here Alice Bowen Kettering Roder Jacobson (1940-2013) - Find a Grave Memorial I got into a bit more info on her page when I created it and some of it was to release pent up feelings that I needed to heal. Since she was cremated, there is no grave marker, and I wish someone would put at least a marker near her parents of the kids who have died without a grave and sit in a jar on someone's shelf. Today I'm working on genealogy and finding connections to Magna Carta Surety Barons and Mayflower ancestors. 19 of the Surety Barons and 7 of the Mayflower are direct ancestors and more are connected by marriage to both of my parents but more on dads' side for some reason yet both parents came from European roots. I have found connections to Kings and Queens of many countries and famous folks from Elvis to Mohammed Ali and Ava Gardner to Johnny Cash and June Carter and most of the Presidents even Obama are related to me and thankfully one isn't that I can say for now, never know who is on your tree so be careful what branches you jiggle you never know what might fall from it.
https://en.minbarlibya.org/2017/12/08/libya-new-wave-of-attacks-against-sufi-sites/ Suhayb is buried in the same cemetery as this, and it was bombed just days after he visited it with a cousin and sadly i only got to see the rubble and what still stands as they have not removed it and left it to fall in and rot, I guess.
But with finding my father and I will come back and share that story although I have made sure that it won't be lost to time either as that story is just as important to who I am as my mother. But now I have both sides of the coin as we say, and I can feel whole even if it wasn't the answers I wanted to find I have a truth and now I can adventure further into the past and find more cool ancestors to say hey I'm related to ..... and the kids say, "mom will it make us wealthy, then why do you do this?"
